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The Lucky One
I owe you nothing
I give to you
Love
Fidelity
Trust
You owe me nothing
You give to me
Family
Belonging
Connectedness
Owing brings forth
resentment
debt
and when it's paid
it's final
Giving offers
warmth
love
joy
and it is never done
it is always held close to the heart
-- Eun Mi on IAT
We go through what
we go through to help
others go through what we went through.
Welcome to
Holland
--
Emily
Perl Kingsley
I'm only one.
But still, I am one.
I cannot do
everything, but still, I can do something.
And because I
cannot do everything,
I will not
refuse to do the something that I can do.
-- Edward Everett Hale
You are a child of
the universe,
no less than
the trees and the stars;
you have a
right to be here.
And whether or
not it is clear to you,
no doubt the
universe is unfolding as it should.
-- Max Ehrmann -
Desiderata
Adoption comes from the heart, but the adoption process comes from the
Law.
You should follow your heart, but be sure you also follow the law.
-- Irina O'Rear
We witness a miracle every time a child enters into life.
But those who make their journey home across time & miles,
growing within the hearts of those who wait to love them,
are carried on the wings of destiny and placed among us
by God's very own hands.
--- Kristi Larson
The longest journey of any person is the journey inward.
--- Unknown
I shall be called by a new name,
embraced by a fresh pair of arms,
but I shall come and go,
the eternal me.
--- Rabindranath
Tagore
Pray, hope and don't worry. Anxiety doesn't help at all.
Our Merciful Lord will listen to your prayer.
--- Saint
Padre Pio
KISSES
IN THE WIND (The
Waiting Child's Lullabye)
I hold you in my heart and touch you in my dreams.
You are here each day with me, at least that's how it seems.
I know you wonder where we are... what's taking us so long.
But remember child, I love you so and God will
keep you strong.
Now go outside and feel the breeze and let it touch your skin...
Because tonight, just as always, I blow you kisses in the wind.
May God hold you in His hand until I can be with
you.
I promise you, my darling, I'm doing all that I can do.
Very soon, you'll have a family for real, not just pretend.
But for tonight, just as always, I blow you kisses in the wind.
May God wrap you in His arms and hold you very tight.
And let the angels bring the kisses that I send to you each night.
--- © Pamela Durkota, written for Josh
The world is round, and the place which may
seem like the end, may also be the beginning.
--- Ivy Baker Priest
I didn't come out of my mother.
I don't have my father's green eyes.
No one in my family looks like me.
People are always surprised.
I think we're a happier family
Than if we were all kings and queens.
We're so lucky we all found each other.
That's what being adopted means.
--- Pamela Espeland and Marilyn Waniek
Life is not measured by the number of breaths you take,
but by the moments that take
your breath away.
--- Unknown
One does not discover new lands without consenting to lose sight
of the shore for a long time.
--- Unknown
Thou hast made me known
to friends whom I knew not.
Thou hast given me seats in homes not my own.
Thou hast brought the distant near and made a brother of the stranger.
--- Tagore
I know God won't give
me anything I can't handle.
I just wish he didn't trust me so much
---
Mother Teresa
Your children are not
your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you... More
--- Kahlil
Gibran
I took the road less
traveled by, and that has made all the difference.
--- Robert Frost
I’d rather regret the
things that I have done, than the things that I have not done.
--- Lucille Ball
Stop telling God how big
your storm is -
Instead tell your storm how big your GOD is.
--- unknown
Here is the test to
find whether your mission on earth is finished:
If you're alive, it isn't.
--- Richard Bach
The
Future
Twenty years from now
you will be more disappointed
by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did.
So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor.
Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
--- Mark Twain
Do not follow where
the path may lead.
Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.
--- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Pray to God, but
continue to row toward shore.
--- Russian Proverb
If you do not change
direction, you may end up where you are heading.
---
Lao-Tzu
May you live all the
days of your life.
--- Jonathan Swift
An invisible red
thread connects those who are
destined to meet,
regardless of time, place, or circumstance.
The thread may stretch or tangle, but it will never break.
--- An ancient Chinese belief
We don't stop playing
because we grow older,
We grow older because we stop playing.
--- Nana (age 103)
Have great hopes and
dare to go all out for them.
Have great dreams and dare to live them.
Have tremendous expectations and believe in them.
--- Norman Vincent Peale
And in the end, it's not
the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
---
Abraham Lincoln
The
Bible
For I was hungry and
you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something
to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, .....
The King will reply, 'I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of
the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.
--- Matthew 25:35,40
Ask and it will be given
to you; seek and you will find;
knock and the door will be opened to you.
For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds;
and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.
--- Matthew 7:7-8
God sets the lonely
in families.
--- Psalm 68:6
Religion that God our
Father Accepts as pure and faultless is this:
to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself
from being polluted by the
world.
--- James 1:27
I prayed for this
child, and the LORD has granted me what I
asked of him.
---1 Samuel 1:27
Do not be afraid, for I
am with you;
I will bring your children from the east and gather you from the west.
I will say to the north, `Give them up!' and to the south, `Do not hold
them back.'
Bring my sons from afar and my daughters from the ends of the earth--
--- Isaiah 43: 5-6
And whoever welcomes a
little child like this in my name welcomes me.
--- Matthew 18:5
Like cold water to a weary soul, is good news from a distant land.
--- Proverbs 25:25
The
Adopted Child
The Gift of Life
I didn't give you the gift of life,
But in my heart I know.
The love I feel is deep and real,
As if it had been so.
For us to have each other
Is like a dream come true!
No, I didn't give you
The gift of life,
Life gave me the gift of you.
--- Unknown
Our children are not
ours because they share our genes...
they are ours because we have had the audacity to envision them.
That, at the end of the day...or long sleepless night,
is how love really works.
--- Unknown
Not flesh of my flesh,
Nor bone of my bone,
But still miraculously my own.
Never forget for a single minute,
You didn't grow under my heart - but in it
--- Fleur Conkling Heylinger
For finding you
mother,
There's one certain test.
You must look for the creature
Who loves you the best.
---
David Kirk (Little Miss Spider)
Every child deserves a
home of his own.
--- Harry Holt
Natural Child:
Any child who is not artificial.
Real Parent: Any parent who is not imaginary.
Your Own Child: Any child who is not someone else's child.
Adopted Child: A natural child, with a real parent, who is all
my own.
--- Rita
Laws, PhD
How Could You Know?
As you lay sleeping far
away as still as you could be...
How could you know the joy today this photo brings to me?
A few short weeks and you'll be mine, and "I" will soon be "We".
How could you know the love I feel? It's something you can't see.
So have sweet dreams, my precious babe. Sleep well and tenderly.
Some say that you're the lucky one. How could you know it's me?
--- Kris Laughlin
Motherhood
& Birth-Motherhood
Of all the rights of
women, the greatest is to be a mother.
--- Lin Yutang
Is this the dream
that I had before I became a mom?
That was like a black and white movie----shadowy, dreamlike, without
details.
The life we live is a rainbow of details,
and a richer, more vibrant reality than anything I ever dreamed.
--- Beth M Waggenspack
LEGACY OF AN ADOPTED
CHILD
Once there were two
women who never knew each other
One you do not remember, the other you call Mother
Two different lives
shaped to make you one
One became your guiding star, the other became your sun
The first one gave you
life, and the second taught you to live it
The first gave you a need for love, the second was there to give it
One gave you a
nationality, the other gave you a name
One gave you a talent, the other gave you aim
One gave you emotions,
the other calmed your fears
One saw your first sweet smile, the other dried you tears
One made an adoption
plan, that was all that she could do
The other prayed for a child, and God led her straight to you.
Now, which of these two women, Are you the product of?
Both, my darling, Both, Just two different types of love.
---- Unknown
Dear Abby:
You recently printed a letter from "Marylou in Houston" about the pain
of placing a child for adoption. When I went through this experience, I
wrote a poem. You have my permission to print it if you think it will
help others to understand the roller-coaster emotions a birth mother
goes through making this decision.
--LISA BOTE-PHILLIPS, ALASKA
Dear Lisa: I
certainly do think it will help. Abby
ON THE WINGS OF A PRAYER
I set you free on the wings of a prayer
To fly through life in His tender care,
You're free from the nest and the ties that are bound
Free from the pressures I carry around.
If I kept you I'd only be cutting your wings,
Not offering the chance a true family brings.
The decision I've made has my heart torn in two,
But I know what I'm doing is the best thing for you.
The sky is so vast, the mountains so high
Take wing and remember: I love you.
Goodbye.
--LISA BOTE-PHILLIPS, a birth mother
Moving Ahead
The journey of a
thousand miles must begin with a single step.
---
Lao-Tzu
If we wait for the
moment when everything, absolutely everything is ready, we shall never
begin.
---
Ivan Sergeyevich Turgenev
Healing does not mean
going back to the way things were before,
but rather allowing what is now to move us closer to God
--- Ram Dass
Whatever you can do, or
dream you can do, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.
--- Goethe
If not through the door,
then through the window!
--- Russian proverb
The man whispered,
"God, speak to me" and a Chickadee sang.
But, the man did not hear.
So the man yelled "God, speak to me!" And, the thunder rolled across
the sky.
But, the man did not listen.
The man looked around and said, "God let me see you." And a star shined
brightly.
But the man did not notice.
And, the man shouted, "God show me a miracle!" And, a life was born.
But, the man did not know.
So, the man cried out in despair, "Touch me God, and let me know you
are here!"
Whereupon, God reached down and touched the man.
But, the man brushed the butterfly away and walked on.
Don't miss out on a blessing because it isn't packaged the way that you
expect.
Do or do not, there is
no try.
--- Yoda
For a long time it
had seemed to me that life was about
to begin - real life.
But here was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten
through first,
some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid.
Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that this was my life.
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness.
Happiness Is the way.
--- Fr. Alfred D Souza
God moves in a
mysterious way,
His wonders to perform.
---
William Cowper
I will study and get
ready and some day my chance will come.
---
Abraham Lincoln
Ships are safe inside
their harbor. But, is that what ships are for ?
--- Thom Bishop, Wake up and dream
We may affirm
absolutely that nothing great in the world
has been accomplished without passion.
--- G. W. F.
Hegel
Destiny is not a matter
of chance, it is a matter of choice;
it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.
--- William J. Bryan
Praise to thee, Oh
Lord, for all creation,
Give us thankful hearts that we may see,
All the gifts we share and every blessing,
All things, come of thee
--- John Rutter, Look at the World
I asked God, "How much
time do I have before I die?"
He replied, "Enough to make a difference"................
--- Unknown
